tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post4030087637801561699..comments2023-10-01T07:43:13.216-07:00Comments on bits and peaces: Life Goes OnJustMehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-5039011747410602472013-08-24T20:24:15.139-07:002013-08-24T20:24:15.139-07:00You're so right about the fact that we rarely ...You're so right about the fact that we rarely if ever "trash" our significant others. I think I'd vent about my husband a bit more if my blog was anonymous but I guess it just feels kind of unfair since he doesn't have a blog to trash me on. I love this story though. And the flowers were a nice touch. (-:Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15069220262683215373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-25152863853691269502013-08-15T08:47:06.571-07:002013-08-15T08:47:06.571-07:00I've had a few meltdowns in recent weeks that ...I've had a few meltdowns in recent weeks that have produced similar type of fights. I absolutely have fighting with my husband (especially if its simply because of ny pregnant hormonal state). is totally normal. thanks for being real. and happy anniversary!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-18156937058073252472013-08-12T08:33:21.051-07:002013-08-12T08:33:21.051-07:00Haha, and now it seems we have another thing in co...Haha, and now it seems we have another thing in common -- wedding anniversaries in August. :) Ours is on Tuesday. Yeah, I agree with you on the weird/suspect prevalence of happy-go-lucky couples in the infertility blogosphere. In my case, I'd say we're like 90 - 95% good, but I can't really write too much about the other 5% because my hubby (and friends/family) read my blog. <br /><br />I'm also fully passive-aggressive when it comes to arguing, but this is precisely where my husband steps up. He can sense that I'm pissed off practically before I can and will call me on it ASAP and insist on talking it out before it even becomes an issue. I am SO grateful for this personality trait of his because in other relationships I would end up sulking for weeks before anything got resolved and it felt horrible. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-48370038837629565062013-08-09T09:05:00.198-07:002013-08-09T09:05:00.198-07:00A) Happy anniversary.
B) Last night was a lot like...A) Happy anniversary.<br />B) Last night was a lot like that for Jesse and me... my feet hurt, one foot in particular. As we laid on the sectional couch (thank God for that thing, because we really don't like to couch snuggle, and there's no way I could any more with this budda belly) anyway, I put my foot up by his chest, as a hint, a gesture to rub it. He picked it up, put it on the ground and said, "if you want to stretch out, use your side of the couch." WHAT?? I said, "I put it up there for you to rub it. Duh." I went and got my heating pad for myself. 10 minutes later he says... "let me and see your foot. I'll rub it." and for 15 seconds, he did. <br />that's marriage. and that's how frustrating little fights fizzle out, like you said. we went to bed, still in love with each other, no biggie. but damn it, I would kill for a good foot rub :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-11745947933433704082013-08-08T09:38:30.699-07:002013-08-08T09:38:30.699-07:00Oh my gosh, that's too funny. And so true! T...Oh my gosh, that's too funny. And so true! Thank goodness Troy doesn't read my blog often. He could if he wanted to but I think really it just bores him. :) <br /><br />Troy and I bicker all the time. But for a guy who's not getting any, he really has been a trooper. I'm lucky he still adores me. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-64225020693830019572013-08-07T08:48:10.234-07:002013-08-07T08:48:10.234-07:00Happy anniversary!
CP doesn't read my blog (a...Happy anniversary!<br /><br />CP doesn't read my blog (at least I think that even after 5 years he still doesn't know about it), but honestly the fights that we have are too small to document. Readers would think that they were really boring- and they end like yours did- just letting it go and starting to talk about something else. <br /><br />Our relationship hasn't changed that much while I have been pregnant, except after the SCH scare he is doing the heavy lifting of things (and not complaining/sighing/etc) about it. He also had to plaster/paint/etc. our master bedroom by himself and will have to do the same in the nursery. So yeah, he gets some points for that, even if he isn't running out to the store to get me ice cream at 9pm.Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-73962672477642619902013-08-07T04:07:31.824-07:002013-08-07T04:07:31.824-07:00I'm not sure I had any visions of what pregnan...I'm not sure I had any visions of what pregnancy would be like, but my husband actually is doting on me and taking care of me. He is always making me sit when we are out so I don't get too tired, he gets me food, he won't even let me open a door. It's sweet, but also a little too much sometimes. A couple weeks ago he told me it's because he feels helpless and doesn't know what to do. He just has to sit back while I deal with all the ups and downs of being pregnant with twins. He likes to fix problems, and he doesn't know how to fix the nausea and all the other crap that is now starting so he overcompensates by hovering and trying to anticipate what I might need. I can't/shouldn't really complain about that, I guess, but it's also not as dreamy as you would imagine. <br />That's not to say we have any sort of perfect relationship. We certainly fight and get on each others nerves, but who doesn't? <br />Happy anniversary!!JenShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056681492831041470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-7774225072348447232013-08-06T19:14:22.176-07:002013-08-06T19:14:22.176-07:00Um, you have obviously not been reading my blog ve...Um, you have obviously not been reading my blog very long because I talk some real talk about my relationship there, pretty often. In fact, MV stopped reading because he couldn't really handle it. I even have a category for couples counseling and for our relationship. We've been through some hard times--most of our biggest decisions have been REALLY hard to reach--and we've been to regular couples counseling a few times. So yeah, if you want to read about real relationships, troll through my archives. ;)<br /><br />It is hard to realize that life doesn't stop for pregnancy, especially when your waited a long time and tried really hard to achieve it. It also sucks when our partners can't read our minds. ;) That really annoys me. I have to tell my partner to give me hugs and kisses when he leaves or comes home or goes to bed, otherwise he doesn't think to do it. That is hard for me, that I have to ask, but I've come to realize it's not about how he feels for me, it's just about who he is. <br /><br />I hope the mood swings die down. Esperanzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375150088333673843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-18429021348409608172013-08-06T17:22:48.830-07:002013-08-06T17:22:48.830-07:00Oh man, I am totally a passive aggressive sigher/p...Oh man, I am totally a passive aggressive sigher/pillow rustler/loud drawer and door closer. I'm not proud of it. Also, totally love the honesty. Before I started blogging, C and I had a deal that I wouldn't rage against him in print if I hadn't at first brought it up with him in person - it didn't mean we had to resolve our differences (let's get real), but I at least had to try before maligning him for public consumption. What can I say, we were trying to be all "mature" and stuff. And to that end, I believe that it was back in February that I wrote about not actually liking my husband (for a period of time, most of which was Clomid induced, BUT STILL). http://fallopiangroove.blogspot.com/2013/02/precautionary-measures-cycle-3-day-6.htmlSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17685641936657833904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-83878291389966653342013-08-06T14:41:10.440-07:002013-08-06T14:41:10.440-07:00Oh man my husband has not been chasing after me an...Oh man my husband has not been chasing after me and buying me ice-cream at 2am either. Instead he CONSTANTLY nags me about eating more, happily drinks booze in front of me and still makes the coffee with the smell that I hate. Because, like you say, life goes on. <br /><br />Generally, we don't really fight because we are too lazy and have really short attention spans. I've learnt that nagging him about things is completely pointless, so I just wait until something goes wrong and he figures it out for himself (example, we now only have 4 wine glasses left because he ALWAYS leaves the kitchen cupboards open when he's done. It drives me NUTS. Last week the cat got into the open cupboard and started pushing the glasses onto the floor. He closes them now...)<br /><br />I don't blog about him or our relationship particularly though, he doesn't read it really but I feel bad that he doesn't get to offer his side of the story. I'm sure I'm a bloody nightmare to live with!Lornahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10025158792713376297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-2789081660374309362013-08-06T13:19:20.047-07:002013-08-06T13:19:20.047-07:00Oh no that's a new one for me! I'll have t...Oh no that's a new one for me! I'll have to start reading :)JustMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-69801461756896532112013-08-06T13:13:16.360-07:002013-08-06T13:13:16.360-07:00PS, did you read Dogs Aren't Kids' post fr...PS, did you read Dogs Aren't Kids' post from this morning? It's titled, "Husband Rant: You’re Annoying, Shut Up." Hilarious. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-27464034471295607812013-08-06T13:04:00.691-07:002013-08-06T13:04:00.691-07:00Oh I LOVE Lauren's blog and I totally agree. ...Oh I LOVE Lauren's blog and I totally agree. I thought of her while I wrote this. I wish I could be as honest and well-written as she is. <br /><br />And you're right, I don't want my blog to be a bitch-fest. But I do want it to be honest and, if someone reading it can relate and not feel so irrational and frustrated, I hope that will help :)JustMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-44345891905967123262013-08-06T13:02:53.001-07:002013-08-06T13:02:53.001-07:00Yep, it's partially true in my case too. I DO...Yep, it's partially true in my case too. I DO get caught up in my emotions in the moment and focus solely on that. But STILL! ha. I'm glad you took the deeper message from this post. It's funny I didn't know that's how it would turn out when I started writing it.JustMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-31196664421224204512013-08-06T13:02:02.363-07:002013-08-06T13:02:02.363-07:00Mine reads my blog too! Hopefully he understands ...Mine reads my blog too! Hopefully he understands what I'm trying to say here. I mean he's the one who always tells me that the best blog posts I write are the most personal, so here goes ;)<br /><br />I LOVE the story of you thinking it was sacrilege to fart on a pregnant lady. Ha, ha, ha.JustMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-81291648928209559422013-08-06T13:00:24.375-07:002013-08-06T13:00:24.375-07:00Wow, eight years! Congratulations!
By the way, I ...Wow, eight years! Congratulations!<br /><br />By the way, I know of at least one blog where the blogger talks honestly on a regular basis about how pregnancy, life, etc affects her relationship with her husband: Lauren at Better In Real Life.<br /><br />To be honest, I try not to talk on the blog about the fights and the hard times in my relationship with my husband, not because these things don't happen (of course they do), but because I generally try to keep a positive vibe on my blog. It may be just my nature, my personality, but for me it would be real easy to turn the blog into a bitch-fest, and I try really hard to avoid doing that.Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323801450928101386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-75419237964544436812013-08-06T12:54:31.137-07:002013-08-06T12:54:31.137-07:00I'll be honest, I laughed out loud a little wh...I'll be honest, I laughed out loud a little when I read what B said to you about your memory, because that is EXACTLY the kind of thing that would come out of AE's mouth. And, ya know, at least in my case, it would probably maybe even be true. <br /><br />I am also a heavy sigher when I want to show my disapproval. And a pillow rustler. We're all such grown ups, aren't we?<br /><br />Happy anniversary, friend! I hope B feels better. And you know what? I think this actually IS a glowing post about your relationship. No one can be on point all of the time. What makes this glowing is your resolution. And your recognition that arguments and bad days don't mean horrible, awful, relationship shaking things. They just mean arguments and bad days. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-18232689075014378622013-08-06T12:40:28.644-07:002013-08-06T12:40:28.644-07:00LOVE this post! It is funny how no one badmouths t...LOVE this post! It is funny how no one badmouths their spouse. My excuse is that I have a perfect relations- HAHAHA I can't even finish that. My excuse is that he reads my blog, so if I posted about the fights it would just start another fight. I also have those same stereotypes about pregnancy, you really burst my bubble here that they won't come true. I will never forget the indignation I felt when my sister-in-law's husband intentionally farted on her while she was pregnant. It was like... SACRILEGE. I saw her as this untouchable entity and he kept on seeing her as his wife, who apparently, got farted on. This was years ago and it still sticks out in my mind. Anyway, I related so much to your fight - I have a legendary deep sigh to convey how pissed I am and am known to do a wicked eye roll. It's OK. They just don't think to be considerate, then they accuse you of not listening, when you know for a fact they never said it. <br /><br />Thanks for making me feel blissfully normal in my dysfunctional but oftentimes fun relationship. And Happy Anniversary!Deedahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02386061097583007160noreply@blogger.com