tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post2402792708948340626..comments2023-10-01T07:43:13.216-07:00Comments on bits and peaces: Hidden PrincessJustMehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-92055751083225246842013-08-23T16:21:35.357-07:002013-08-23T16:21:35.357-07:00Enjoy those baths....oh sweet bejeezus do I miss t...Enjoy those baths....oh sweet bejeezus do I miss those relaxing baths...I still sneak one in occasionally but that indulgent "take as long as I want" feeling is no longer, so [please heed this advice: ENJOY!!! Pamper the HELL out of yourself. You will never say, "Gee, I wish I'd had less pregnancy massages" after the baby comes. SO excited for you, and would love to have a baby play date!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-55092909250855080712013-08-19T12:34:16.936-07:002013-08-19T12:34:16.936-07:00I have been pampering myself with pedicures every ...I have been pampering myself with pedicures every 6 weeks or so (that's when my toes start to get really icky). So far I have only gotten two but they are well worth it! I would love to get a prenatal massage, but I'll probably wait until a bit later on in the pregnancy.<br /><br />As far as the "princess" thing I have caught myself a few times thinking, "ugh. But I'm pregnant- why can't someone do this for me?" And then I think about how many other women have gone through pregnancy and how I should stop whining and just do it. I think that a lot of women tend to get more selfish when they are pregnant because it is something major happening to their body that will change their life.....but I think that a lot of brides also get selfish and tend to think that the world revolves around their wedding. <br /><br />Ummm I LOVE the turtle bath thermometer. ADORABLE!!! And Monte is adorable as well!Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-84837946617170485672013-08-18T20:24:18.133-07:002013-08-18T20:24:18.133-07:00Oh and the clinic has multiple locations all over ...Oh and the clinic has multiple locations all over LA.JustMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-64279749171124414582013-08-18T20:23:48.388-07:002013-08-18T20:23:48.388-07:00Well, it's not thaaat painful. Do you ever ge...Well, it's not thaaat painful. Do you ever get deep tissue? The only place it really hurt was on my ribcage and also on my left shoulder (but that's my cus I have shoulder pain). But definitely not designed to be relaxing. If you get interested...its doctorberlin.com. And I just got the turtle thermometer off Amazon. It's a baby bath thermometer. JustMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-19464913570534928032013-08-18T16:49:28.208-07:002013-08-18T16:49:28.208-07:00First, I was going to ask where that clinic is unt...First, I was going to ask where that clinic is until you talked about the pain. I do want to get a few massages to pamper myself, but I am not sure I am up for deep tissue painful ones. Now that I am back in LA, I am going back to my acupuncturist (who specializes in IF and pregnancy) to help with some of the discomfort. I want one of those thermometers. I have been a little afraid of taking a bath and I keep hearing how great it is to get into water and feel weightless in the third trimester.<br />Second, I totally have spoiled princess tendencies. I think it comes from being an only child. I tended to always get my way as a kid. Now my husband is being extra overprotective and wanting to take care of me during this pregnancy and totally indulging the princess in me, but I find myself getting annoyed. I mean, I am not incapable of doing everything. Sure some stuff is harder but I am not suddenly crippled. I shouldn't be surprised, though. While he treats me as an equal and expects a lot of me, he also has this whole chivalry thing going of opening doors and all that nonsense. It's cute mostly, but sometimes I just need to open the door for myself.JenShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056681492831041470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-33541268381699037012013-08-17T09:59:36.606-07:002013-08-17T09:59:36.606-07:00No offence taken at all! Truly, it was interesting...No offence taken at all! Truly, it was interesting, as I said, to read things from your perspective. And I so much appreciate your honesty. As hard as it may be for some of us to read, I do think there is real benefit to be had in grappling with different experiences and viewpoints, because they can also bring us out of the myopia of our own experience, and ultimately that can be what propels us forward, what motivates us to keep going. Thanks for sharing, warts and all! Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-20457499506474240722013-08-17T09:40:20.026-07:002013-08-17T09:40:20.026-07:00First, a couple points:
Monty is so cute! I love ...First, a couple points:<br /><br />Monty is so cute! I love German Shepherds<br /><br />That bath thing in the picture with the wine glass and the book? Going to ebay right after this to find one for myself. <br /><br />I am obsessed with taking baths. For me, they absolutely must have a bath bomb from Lush. There is really nothing better than a good bath to process my emotions and thoughts. But, to work through my emotions, I like to take my dogs for a walk somewhere beautiful. Work up a sweat, take in the scenery. It always puts things into prospective for me. <br /><br />I kind of make a mental picture of the process. Last night, Andino and I had some tense moments as we were discussing what to do. When we were done talking, I took a bath, and I imagined arranging all my thoughts into a little package. Today, when I go for a walk, I'll leave the package behind. It makes me feel fresh again. <br /><br />Glad to hear you are taking care of yourself. It sounds like you have a great little family already with your hubby and Monty. Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-75708831928780348642013-08-17T09:29:26.937-07:002013-08-17T09:29:26.937-07:00I have definitely found myself letting my husband ...I have definitely found myself letting my husband do more for me than I normally would- I'm the same, I did not marry someone who opens car doors or runs after me all the time (the one thing he does do- always walking on the side of the pavement nearest the road- drives me NUTS) but I think it's been quite good for our relationship for me to just *have* to let him look after me a bit. In practical terms that means letting him make dinner a few times a week, or asking him to get me a cup of tea when I'm just too damn tired at 9pm. He is much happier when he feels like I need him, and I'm so proud of being super-independent woman I don't let him often. His face when he realised I'd climbed on top of our dresser to fix the smoke alarm last week really tells me all I need to know on that matter...<br /><br />But yay for taking charge and doing what you need to do for yourself. And for being vocal in exactly what you need- it's not always that easy in practice!Lornahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10025158792713376297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-53751027476362577792013-08-17T08:47:28.002-07:002013-08-17T08:47:28.002-07:00First of all, thank you for pointing that out, tha...First of all, thank you for pointing that out, that not only is it a cultural cliche (so true), but also that it might be hard for some of my readers to read. I truly don't mean to offend anyone with the post, though can definitely now see why it would. I think I was trying to be honest about a part of myself that I'm not too proud of that can come out anytime things are hard (when I'm sick, stressed, etc) but has definitely been present during the second half of this pregnancy. I also hope readers can see that my point is that taking care of ourSELVES, no matter what the stressor, is more important than being a princess.<br /><br />Which brings me to the other great point you made. Sometimes self-care isn't enough. Family and friends are so important. And, if I didn't believe sometimes the pain is too much to handle on our own, then I definitely went into the wrong field! Can you imagine a therapist that just tells you to suck it up and take better care of yourself? Ha.JustMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-81441790533671498162013-08-17T05:43:24.665-07:002013-08-17T05:43:24.665-07:00Cliched as it is, a hot bath, candles, and a glass...Cliched as it is, a hot bath, candles, and a glass of red are also my idea of decent self-care :) I don't do it often enough though! For me, eating really well is another important and pleasurable form of self-care, not just because of nutrition, but also because I find the act of cooking (and sometimes growing!) my own stuff really meditative. <br /><br />But to answer your question on a more serious note too, I have found that since experiencing loss and infertility, I have simply had to realize that occasionally I *do* need more care than I can give myself, and so have had to be really vocal about telling those close to me what I need and how to support/look after me. That's been a huge learning curve, because by nature I am a very independent, self-sufficient person.<br /><br />I also want to say that you're very brave for being so honest about the 'pregnant princess' phenomenon, especially given how many of your readers are infertiles. Bravo! I think that cultural assumption (because I don't think it's only you, and I don't think it's because you are 'spoiled'; it's a whole cultural trope), is one of the hardest things for us infertiles to swallow. It's really interesting to hear it in a candid way from someone on the other side :) Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.com