tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post2776287866589133000..comments2023-10-01T07:43:13.216-07:00Comments on bits and peaces: Mommy Dating - It's a Real ThingJustMehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-15016067528913324212014-04-10T14:43:46.815-07:002014-04-10T14:43:46.815-07:00I've been having this problem. I've been g...I've been having this problem. I've been going to stroller strides so I can exercise and take the babies and meet other moms. The problem is they mostly have toddlers. And they all know each other from being in the group so long already. So they are nice to me but spend a lot of time talking about other people I don't know so I don't quite fit in there. Then I have my twins group. I have only been to a couple of play dates but after the super skinny yoga instructor mom with the flat belly talked about how she had so much milk after breastfeesing that she had to donate it to a milk bank, the others mostly talked about their nannies and night nurses. Yeah, I'm not quite fitting in there yet, either. I'm sure I'll find my place but it's hard. JenShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056681492831041470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-72174259020961878682014-04-09T09:38:08.292-07:002014-04-09T09:38:08.292-07:00I went to one MeetUp group and totally felt out of...I went to one MeetUp group and totally felt out of place. The other kids were all crawling and/or walking so bringing Izzy at less than 3 months old, I was the outsider. I'm scared to go to another group.....Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-40342595507194819972014-04-06T19:31:53.382-07:002014-04-06T19:31:53.382-07:00Yes, mommy dating is a real thing and it is hard! ...Yes, mommy dating is a real thing and it is hard! But I just wanted to offer up another point of view: that mom that you think has all her shit together with her perfectly manicured nails? She doesn't have her shit together, trust me. None of us do.Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323801450928101386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-63587564252122942762014-04-05T09:23:13.526-07:002014-04-05T09:23:13.526-07:00I have never gone to a group via MeetUp, but this ...I have never gone to a group via MeetUp, but this is how I felt at La Leche League meetings and stuff like that. The comparison thing can be so powerful. And like you said, it's like being in high school again. I so hope that you're able to find some good connections in the group though!Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15069220262683215373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-5537084049252101002014-04-05T00:58:55.378-07:002014-04-05T00:58:55.378-07:00Oh this is so refreshing. And I get it to. I often...Oh this is so refreshing. And I get it to. I often find myself singing to Lily Allen: "It's hard out there for a b*tch is hard". So yes, " It’s hard being a woman no matter how old you are. "<br />I joined a few mommy groups on Facebook : Mamas Mexicanas en Holanda, -the-city-I-live-in-mamas, Raising bilingual children, Mothers and Munchkins... but we did not meet yet, and we are still supposed to organize a meetup with the (really nice) couples we met at our childbirth group. The last of the babies' was born a month ago, so it might still be a bit to early. <br /><br />Why is no one talking about the postpartum sex? I really want to know, maybe I'll email you... <br /><br />Advice can get so divisive and contradictory, and I constantly alternate from moments where I feel like I am about to completely lose my sh*t to others where it feels like life could not be more perfect, complete with the sun shining bright and spotting pretty blue and yellow birds during our walks. So much pure joy, and so much craziness. <br /><br />I am sure you have already found it, but just in case it has been a relief to read some of the articles at <a href="http://www.renegademothering.com/posts-that-dont-suck/" rel="nofollow">Renegade Mothering.</a> We are not alone, in fact we are all together. Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02424374017675047414noreply@blogger.com