tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post5280582204623782236..comments2023-10-01T07:43:13.216-07:00Comments on bits and peaces: Your Thoughts PleaseJustMehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-70544577431137377772014-01-31T11:52:39.487-08:002014-01-31T11:52:39.487-08:00I say.....DO IT!!!! This is an opportunity of a li...I say.....DO IT!!!! This is an opportunity of a life time and I have learned very quickly within this past week that sometimes things happen for a reason! I agree you will never get this time again and who cares about what people say! Enjoy it :)Lexi + Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15430250383688667761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-26659239658237492612014-01-25T18:49:24.155-08:002014-01-25T18:49:24.155-08:00Do it!!! This sounds like the opportunity of a li...Do it!!! This sounds like the opportunity of a lifetime. <br /><br />You will go back to work. But you will never get back the extra time with your boy if you go back to work now.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14647211529119137824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-19676476932364293292014-01-23T15:42:45.414-08:002014-01-23T15:42:45.414-08:00Sounds like a no-brainer to me! (I guess that'...Sounds like a no-brainer to me! (I guess that's easy for me to say all the way over here with no consequences whatsoever, ha). But I would take the opportunity to move. A slower pace, a bigger space, more time with your son... I mean, come on. Who cares about the "I told you so" people. If it was feasible for me to not go back to work (or delay it for awhile), I totally would. You're right, you'll never get this time back, so enjoy it! Plus, you're renting. You can always move back if you really, really hate it (that's what I told a friend while trying to convince her to take a dream job opportunity in Boston and five years later, she's still there. Just saying). Deedahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02386061097583007160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-39238158610351368932014-01-23T12:21:09.165-08:002014-01-23T12:21:09.165-08:00I will echo what everyone else said, and also add ...I will echo what everyone else said, and also add that I never saw myself as a stay-at-home mom, but that's what I am now, as I decided to take a year off from work... except now I find myself freelancing a few hours a week as well. It sounds like an amazing opportunity, and your career will always be there for you. If you want to go back to work at some point, you absolutely will find a way to do it, even if it's not in a way you imagine it to be now.<br /><br />Also, I lived in Carlsbad for a few years before moving back east, so let me know if you want to chat about that. :)Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323801450928101386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-77750664387501405052014-01-23T09:13:49.981-08:002014-01-23T09:13:49.981-08:00I second Non Sequitur Chica...do it!! It can be a ...I second Non Sequitur Chica...do it!! It can be a little tricky to deal with the "I told you so's" but oh so worth it!!KelBelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17400825492187240028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-86796370121257366992014-01-23T08:58:21.762-08:002014-01-23T08:58:21.762-08:00Esperanza's comment is great. Your coworkers ...Esperanza's comment is great. Your coworkers did tell you so, and that's totally fine. If you let that factor into your decision, then you'd be returning to work in part to spite them, and that's just silly. It sounds like you know what the best decision for your family and happiness is, and you just need the reassurance that it's okay. I say go for it! I've never regretted a well-thought-out decision that I made based on happiness, even when it wound up not being the final path for me. Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03644501843801907359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-73406657105390926872014-01-23T08:25:09.648-08:002014-01-23T08:25:09.648-08:00Do it! If in a few months you decide that you no l... Do it! If in a few months you decide that you no longer want to be a SAHM then you can go searching for a job....but you never know until you try and who wouldn't want more time with their kid?? Plus San Diego is awesome!Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-52606049871799072092014-01-23T08:04:00.225-08:002014-01-23T08:04:00.225-08:00This line struck me: "I will have to go back ...This line struck me: "I will have to go back to work to wrap things up and listen to their "I told you so" chorus."<br /><br />Sounds like some of what you are feeling now is based on the reaction you may get from other people. If this is the path that is best for your family, don't worry about what other people may think! I'm excited for this opportunity for you and I think that treating it as a trial run is a great perspective. How wonderful that B's work is flexible enough for you to try this and that you have a career that allows you to practice anywhere! This is a very exciting time for you all and I can't wait to hear more!dspencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03028178955338687090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-8266380190288881062014-01-23T07:46:07.564-08:002014-01-23T07:46:07.564-08:00I am a huge fan of trusting your gut over your rat...I am a huge fan of trusting your gut over your rational brain. I read this article a while back that really had a huge impact on me, and I think it totally applies here: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Finding-Your-Inner-Voice-Developing-Intuition-Martha-Beck<br /><br />My husband and I left LA for Austin 5 years ago, and it was the best decision we ever made. Our lives are leaps and bound better and less stressful in pretty much every way, except I'm far from my family.<br /><br />Sounds like San Diego is a great move for you guys, I'm so excited for you! And remember that nothing is forever. If you don't like staying home, you can get a new job. Good luck, woman!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-39724139604023713502014-01-23T06:44:15.257-08:002014-01-23T06:44:15.257-08:00I used to love my job back east and it was SO hard...I used to love my job back east and it was SO hard for me to leave and move to the prairies with my husband, even though I knew it made the most sense. I used to read a little book of Paulo Coelho quotes everyday to help me be sure I was making the right decision. It really helped.<br /><br />I know you are like me in that we love adventure and new beginnings. I really wouldn't worry about never returning to work or losing your identity as a Psychologist. As you know, Canadians take a year off work and then go back. I'm sure by then I will be totally ready to be back in the workforce and I will be happy to have been able to spend time with baby girl. <br /><br />I'm sure things will fall into place for you. This is exciting news!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-35747426664494932832014-01-23T03:46:15.565-08:002014-01-23T03:46:15.565-08:00Oh thank you thank you! Such good advice about not...Oh thank you thank you! Such good advice about not basing my decision out of fear (love the Nelson Mamdela quote). I know that I am lucky to have this decision to make. Especially because it wasn't an option before and now it is falling into my lap. And I think, once I can get past the fear, I will appreciate how lucky I am.JustMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02493032821722724778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-914382632005868190.post-86716242152324401942014-01-22T23:12:11.592-08:002014-01-22T23:12:11.592-08:00"May your choices reflect your hopes, not you..."May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears." - Nelson Mandela<br /><br />I just came across that quote the other day and reading this post, it popped into my head.<br /><br />I would say this, don't make any decisions based on what anybody else thinks. Sure there may be a chorus of "I told you so's," who cares. They did tell you so. They were right. Move on.<br /><br />It sounds like there are some really, really GREAT reasons to move to San Diego. It sounds like the only reason not to move to San Diego is fear. Don't let fear bully your into doing something that could be amazing.<br /><br />As far as your job is concerned, making this step does not predetermine any future choices about your professional life. If you want to find something else again, you most probably will. If you want to try out being a SAHM, and you are lucky enough to have that opportunity, then do it. Give it a try. If you end up wanting to return to work in some capacity, know that you will probably be able to do that. It might not happen on exactly the timetable you want, or in exactly the way you want, but it will happen. I do know a lot of women who have had a hard time returning to the work force after being out for a long time, but I'm talking years and years. And even with it being hard, few of them regretted the time at home. And they all eventually found something. So do what you want to do. You are SO SO LUCKY that you have choices. So many women don't. So make those choices with hope in your heart, not fear. <br /><br />Also, California burritos!!!! Enough said.<br /><br />Good luck!Esperanzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375150088333673843noreply@blogger.com